Three tips on ‘Trusting Yourself.’

In Changing life, Compassion, Life goals, Positivity, Productivity on October 30, 2013 at 8:25 am

In response to a post about ‘DOUBT’ on the Lifeforce Facebook page, the editor over at St. Art posted a hashtag (#trustyourself) which got me inspired and thinking – what does it mean to trust yourself?

How do you go about it?

Learning how to do it can take a lifetime (or several) and living it can be difficult.

Below are just a few random musings, and more may follow in future posts on this topic. I’d be interested to know what practical  things you think you need to do trust yourself.

Staying power: You can do it!

Think back to a time when you stuck at something and managed to achieve a lot more or even a bit more of a success than you thought possible at the start.

In someways the outcome of what you stuck at doesn’t matter.  Trusting yourself isn’t necessarily about the outcome. It’s the energy put in and sticking at something that is more valuable.

Also remember a time you stuck at something worthwhile and important that you did or came through,as it indicates when it matters you’ve probably got more reserves of mental strength than you give yourself credit for sometimes.

Weigh up the pros and cons

Often it’s the anxiety of things not working out or turning out the way we’d like that deters us from having a go at something or unnerves our mood.

Minds can go OTT (over the top) when concentrating on might ‘go wrong’ or ‘what hasn’t gone right’.

However, a lot of the times we don’t ask the opposite/complementary question : ‘what could go well or right?’

Give equal balance to both. It might help calm things down and provide a bit of perspective; which in turn helps to get you to start focusing on your abilities to try something, rather than run away from it.

Applying a bit of rationality means you play less of a  a guessing game and give yourself a bit more credit! A bit more trust of yourself is possible then.

Progress, not perfection

You don’t have to get it right.

Michael Jordan, considered by most to be one of the best, if not the best professional basketball player of all time, once said “I’ve missed more than 9000 shots in my career. I’ve lost almost 300 games. 26 times, I’ve been trusted to take the game winning shot and missed. I’ve failed over and over and over again in my life. And that is why I succeed.”

You just have to try to do your best. The emphasis being on ‘try.’ Even when you’re on the floor. Doing, or at least trying your best doesn’t guarantee success.

All sorts of things can happen to knock you off course – none of which have anything to do with you or your innate ability. But, at least along the journey of trying you’ll learn more about your abilities and counter the belief that you’re not able.

Trust yourself, that you can get there. Check out another post I wrote on this ‘Perfect Progress if you want to progress perfection.’


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