Be a Dolly – sometimes it’s good not to give a damn!

In Changing life, Joy, Positivity, Productivity on April 19, 2012 at 11:39 pm

“I’m not offended by all the dumb blonde jokes because I know I’m not dumb – and I also know I’m not blonde.”  Dolly Parton

There are some things in life that are worth having and other things that are not. A wicked sense of humour is certainly one of them. It is a real treasure and worth indulging in as much as possible. Life can be pretty brutal at times, as are the judgement others can make about you. These judgements, even when said in good jest, can really influence the way you think about yourself. In time, depending on your strength of character, this can affect your decisions and ultimately your life and future.

Think back to the times when someone has made a throwaway comment and how that has changed your mood or mind – for better or ill. It is always great when comments are inspiring and nurturing, rather than unduly critical or negative. The first can be  exhilarating and the latter debilitating.

We often take offence or get annoyed by the assumptions of other people. How you react and cope to other’s views and judgements does matter. All types of stereotypes when taken that little step too far and in a way that reinforces differences, instead of celebrating them, can have tragic consequences on a personal and global level. History has shown that too many times.

Dolly Parton’s quote and her attitude – contains a great nugget of old fashioned wisdom. You’ll always hear the comments others make – whether they are helpful or negative. But it is up to you, in large part, how damaging you’ll allow these to be. How far will these seep into your mind and affect the way you feel about yourself, the way you live life, or the things you want to do. A level of self-depreciation is a great thing (which is not the same as low self-esteem, which is also demonstrated when you take yourself too seriously).

Don’t be offended by the silly comments that someone else has made, whether it is a stranger, family, friends or someone close to you. I think in most cases, whilst some people are quite good at being deliberately cruel, unfair comments are borne out of ignorance, laziness and insecurity. That is why they are false comments, because they bear little resemblance to the truth about you. So, don’t let false comments reflect a false picture of you by living in a way that gives credence to them. Sure, the world would be a better place if we all thought more before opening our mouths – but how long have we been hoping and saying that?

Remember, your reaction has a lot more force and power than what someone says. Someone might have said some unkind or even cruel words to you and long forgotten that they did. But you may be thinking about it longer than them! And, letting it affect your morning, your evening, your night and in time, draining your energy and enthusiasm. Eventually this can ruin your life, if you let it.

Living and discovering the truth about yourself is something you can only do for yourself, and it is far better, I suggest, to show that truth by living it, instead of being knocked off course because of the foolishness and unkind words of others.

Dolly Parton also said “I’m old enough and cranky now that if someone tried to tell me what to do, I’d tell them where to put it.”

Be a Dolly – sometimes it’s good not to give a damn about what others think.


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